Like most anxieties we often avoid the problem rather than face it and this is the case with fear of failure. It is easier not to take the risk so we go in avoidance mode. We must understand what has made us fear failing in the first place. Has outside influences had a part in our feelings?
An example of this might be that we are told in our youth that we can never do anything right and so be believe it. Is this outside assessment an accurate one or just something we have accepted as truth? Fear can immobilize us and we get so wrapped up in that fear that we really will fail or not try at all.
Think of ways to overcome this fear of failure. What would be the outcome of taking the risk? What is the worst case scenario? How long would it take you to recover from the failure if you did take it? Looking at these things will help you decide to face the fear and act or not.
When you plan things, especially in smaller steps, then it is easier to take a risk. Have a back up plan also, and this especially will give you the confidence to act and face the fear. Once you do it, it will become easier the next time eg joining a club, making a speech or having a first date.
The greatest obstacles to your success is avoidance and procrastination. We tell ourselves we will do it tomorrow or not at all. If we don’t take risks and face our fears then we will be in the same situation we are in today, tomorrow, next week and next year.
Fear can immobilize us but we can face our fears and our lives will be change hopefully for the better. We don’t need to worry about the fear of failure, just take the chance.